tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516826968322440651.post3564400229051337574..comments2020-08-17T04:59:19.786+01:00Comments on Life at Work: Q10: How can I understand someone, if they don’t tell me what’s going on?Elizabeth English (Locana) – From Life at Workhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08514632336450423931noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516826968322440651.post-88119398117005086232012-04-03T10:41:08.286+01:002012-04-03T10:41:08.286+01:00my answer : Understand yourself - that's all w...my answer : Understand yourself - that's all we need to know. Even if a person tells us what is going on, it will never be the whole picture. But we can understand what is going on for ourselves, and know when we are being triggered, and hopefully can take the pauses and do everything you suggest beneath - from the bully docVimalasarahttp://www.bullyvictimbystander.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516826968322440651.post-75070277962022662142012-04-02T23:00:05.014+01:002012-04-02T23:00:05.014+01:00Once again, thank you, Locana! This post speaks ex...Once again, thank you, Locana! This post speaks exactly to what I've been dealing with at work at the moment, and has given me some helpful instructions about how I can better communicate with my workmates. Thanks for the insight.<br />AndreaSuryadarshinihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15885974769858573867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516826968322440651.post-22645819148782901252012-04-01T14:02:51.891+01:002012-04-01T14:02:51.891+01:00Hi Locana,
I found this to be one of your most he...Hi Locana,<br /><br />I found this to be one of your most helpful and insightful blog postings. I was delighted by how succinctly you went thru a complex process and yet made it clear and useful (for me!)... <br /><br />I enjoyed about hearing about "the bits left out...", and about making the communication "solution oriented" - especially seeing the consequences of implying a problem that might not be there, and I felt relief reading about your suggestion about keeping the door open. I can remember many situations with my son where I so wanted to here what was really going on for him, but recognized my pace might not be his and by giving him that sense of the open door, he would eventually come back to me with the depth of connection and sharing that I wanted - even if it took a year sometimes!<br /><br />Thanks again! jas...Jestewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08974057536001362182noreply@blogger.com